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Failing to plan is planning to fail.

1. Failing to plan is planning to fail.
2. Winners don’t do different things, they do things differently.
3. Learn the wisdom of compromise, for it is better to bend a little than to break.
4. Time management is life management so guard your time with great care
5. You must discover that which makes us unique.
6. We must become the change we want to see. --Mahatma Gandhi
7. If you do everything with the feeling of happiness, there will be no task too difficult to perform.

8. Know more than other, work more than others, expect less than others. (Three keys to success)
9. Don’t compare yourself with someone else, if you do so, you are insulting yourself.
10. Everyone thinks to change the world but no one thinks to change himself/herself.
11. You are today where your thoughts have brought you; you will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you. (James Allen)
12. Any task we approach with a negative attitude is already half lost.
13. The impossible can always be broken down into possibilities
14. If you always do your best you will be free from regrets
15. Know Your G.P.M. (Goal + Plan + Measurements) - Goal: what do u want to do. Plan: how you are going to do. Measurement: what to measure when.
16. A thousand disappointments in the past cannot equal the power of one positive action right now. Go ahead and go for it.
17. If you've previously told yourself that it can't be done, this is the moment to change your assumption. When you can dream it, imagine it and visualize it, you can do it.
18. Instead of making excuses, make some progress. Instead of looking back with regret, step forward with enthusiasm.
19. If you focus too much on the past, you'll be held back by limitations that may no longer even exist. Instead, look forward with positive expectation, and you'll find yourself quickly moving in a forward direction.
20. Believing everybody is dangerous; believing nobody is very dangerous.
21. The quality of our thoughts determines our own personal degree of happiness.
22. If you cannot bite, never show your teeth.
23. Those who think it cannot be done must get out of the way of those who think it can be done!
24. I don’t need luck I have skills.
25. To have fear means, that I am danger to myself as well as to others.

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Intuition Allows Us to Connect With Animals on a Deeper Level

Intuition Allows Us to Connect With Animals on a Deeper Level Peace of Mind, Body & Soul • (952) 484-4396 • info@animal-intuition.com • www.animal-intuition.com

What is Intuition?

Simply put, intuition is another sense that we have within us. We are all born with intuition, just as we are born with the ability to see, hear, taste, and feel. Most of us – I’m generalizing society as whole - has learned to build on our logic and reasoning instead of paying attention to our natural instincts. However, most everyone can recall a time where they had a "gut" feeling or perhaps can relate to that feeling of "knowing" when someone is staring at you when you cannot see the person or you walk into a room and there is "tension in the air". That is intuition, another sense that helps us filter and process what is in our environment. Animals rely heavily on their intuition for survival and it is at the core of every living being. This is their first resource, where humans learn to use cognitive abilities and subsequently have paid less attention to and even ignored their intuition.

When we do not use a sense or are no longer able to do so, we lose the ability to easily recognize it on a regular basis. Image if you were blind folded the first 20 years of your life. You would have learned at an early age to pay more attention to your other senses and would ultimately compensate for not having sight. When the blindfold is removed 20 years later, you never having seen anything before, what do you think "sight" would mean to you?

 You have no idea what anything looks like

 The difference between light, dark

 Depth perception

 Color

You would have to learn how to recognize things by sight and train yourself. For instance you would feel a table and then associate what the table looks like, banking that in memory to recall the next time you see a similar object. This would need to be done numerous times because it takes time to remember but also, we have wooden tables, glass tables, iron-legged tables, round tables, square tables and more. So, would you take the time to learn or would you shut your eyes and precede living life as you have done for the first 20 years? What’s easier, what’s more interesting and how important would it be to you? Would you take the time to practice, train and learn how to use your sight or would you shut your eyes and perhaps occasionally take a glimpse of something life with vision?

Animal Intuition

Animals use their intuition all the time and are very aware of it and open with it. Those people that have spent time developing their own intuition can form a bond with the animal that involves the transmission of feelings, intentions, thoughts, mental images, emotions, sensations, and pure knowing. This provides insight to physical, behavioral and emotional issues as well as comfort and closure when dealing with a loss. For people that have animal companions, intuitive sessions with your animal can help heighten your understanding, joy and build a stronger relationship with them.

 

Connecting With Your Animal

Each case is unique and every situation is handled based on the personality and emotional state of the animal. Similarly, you may be able to relate as every verbal conversation you have with a person is different – it depends on who you are talking to, the personalities involved, emotions and communication style. Like us, animals can change their mind, have difficulty addressing sensitive topics or may try to avoid the issue at hand. They do not lie, but there time when animals advert areas of discussion and can certainly figure out a way around the conversation. They also have varying personalities that play a part in how and what information is communicated – some shy, several bold, others detailed oriented and many free spirits.

Having an open mind yourself throughout the session provides for an optimal experience. The sessions themselves can be done in person, by phone or even email. After the connection is made between the animal and intuitive, a few key questions are answered, then discussion can start. These are some common areas of interest:

 Physical health and inquires about pain

 History about the animal’s life before it was with their current family

 Change in behavior

 New family members or change in environment

 Sensitive topics, such as ways gain closure with those that have passed on

Intuition is a valuable skill that animals use every day to survive in the wild and even our domesticated animals respond first to their intuition and then their cognitive abilities. By humans spending time becoming more aware of our own senses, we can better connect and understand our animal companions. Peace of Mind, Body & Soul offers individual sessions as well as classes on how to open up your sense of intuition and began to use it.

 About Peace of Mind, Body & Soul Products and services to help maintain the health and wellness of animals and people using integrative methods: animal communication, canine and equine massage therapy, Reiki, acupressure, Raindrop Technique®, aromatherapy using Young Living therapeutic-grade essential oils. For more information contact Jenny Gott, ECMT, (952) 484-4396, Info@animal-intuition.com or visit www.animal-intuition.com. Young Living # 925420.

Enneagram and Numbers - Descriptions

SJCBA- PGL - 2015 - Description

OUR PERSONALITIES AND EMOTIONS: USING THEM FOR EFFECTIVENESS IN LIFE AND BUSINESS

  I.     Topics Covered:

1)    Structure and Function

2)    Four Factor Theory for success

3)    Personality Theories from Enneagram & Other Schools

4)    Applying Enneagram theories of personality to one’s life and work

5)    Animal/Child, Parent, Adult instincts

6)    Personality & Temperament

7)    Personality & Emotions

8)    Emotional Intelligence

9)    Assertiveness Training

10) Understanding and Managing Anger & Anxiety for success/efficacy

11) Meaning and Direction of Natural Energies: anger, anxiety & fear

 
 II.     Exam:                  

a)     ASSIGNMENT (Home -15 points)

b)    WRITTEN (Class – 70 points): One hour: Next Week

c)     CLASS ATTENDANCE+ PARTICIPATION (15 points) 

a)     ASSIGNMENT PAPERof 2 pages max (15 points)

i)      Site an experience / incident / a situation in short max 2 paragraphs

ii)    Analyse this from the point of what you have learned in the class: Personalities, emotions,  behaviours, & theories involved

iii)  Tease out as many elements as you can from your learning applying to the example.

iv)   Your comments on how differently the characters should have acted and why

v)    Printed out neatly

(DO NOT try to copy materials from the previous batches or from your classmates.)

 

b)    WRITTEN EXAM: (70 points) 

1. For one hour
2. dealing with materials covered in the class: understanding & application 

c)     ATTENDANCE & CLASS PARTICIPATION: (15 points) 

1. Regular, punctual, disciplined
2. Participate in role plays, answer questions correctly
3. Able to summarize the gist of the class next day

 

Note: On the first day afternoon you will take the following tests. Log on to www.sjcbapgl.com Click on the banner Psychological Tests. Do the two tests on the top: a) Enneagram Test and b) MBTI Test. Follow instructions. Enter the results on the score sheet given to you. You need to bring that sheet along with you for the exam.

Interview: Everyone can request for a short personal time to get an explanation on your tests.

9 Types of Students: Enneagram

Nine Types of Students: Check to see where you are:

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The Type One Student: The Serious Hard Worker

 

Motivation: to be good and correct

Focus: what's wrong (what's not as it should be)

Strategy: follow rules, standards, and principals so closely that they will meet all expectations 

Dynamic

• earnest, self-discipline
• very mature
• uncomfortable being spontaneous, playful, emotional

Learning Style

• attentive in class, take thorough notes
• want to know the rules
• learn in a logical, step by step manner
• meticulous attention to detail

Strong Work Ethic

• plan their studies
• dedicated to work, delay breaks
• great team players when everyone works hard

High Standards

• Inner Critic points out every mistake
• annoyed when they don't get things right
• exaggerate the importance of small errors
• may become perfectionistic

Order

• feel good when everything is in its place
• lists, schedules, and plans
• prefer classes calling for precision and correctness
• notice when the teacher is off track

Communication Style

• serious, unemotional voice
• clear, to the point, focused on topic
• strong convictions, morality, sometimes preachy
• often say "I should...."

Ideal Classroom

• values hard work, truth, fairness
• everyone is responsible, self-disciplined, conscientious
• rules are fair and reasonable, and consistently enforced
• well organized and work is well planned

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The Type Two Student: The People Pleasing Mentor 

Motivation: to be appreciated

Focus: other people and their needs

Strategy: earn appreciation by being kind to others

 Dynamic

• relationships and feelings
• class dynamics just as important to learning process as lesson content

Learning Style

• want emotional connection to the lesson
• focus on people and applications
• learn well from role models
• connect with passionate, joyful teachers

Adapting for Approval

• good grades
• volunteering around school
• track teachers' preferences and adapt to each
• may behave very differently in different classes

Human Contact

• mutual support in classroom community
• connect with other students
• group discussions, stories, shared experiences
• may be mentors, form study groups

Communication Style

• signs of affection, smile, eye contact
• make others feel accepted
• personal questions
• generous with compliments

Ideal Classroom

• values thoughtfulness, emotional connection
• group work and discussion
• positive, nurturing atmosphere
• small classroom
• beautifully appointed with a human touch

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The Type Three Student: The Star of the Class 

Motivation: to be successful

Focus: results and achievement

Strategy: to win the esteem of others 
 

Dynamic

• need to be the best
• "unproductive" feelings, close friendships less important than task on hand
• may become role models/ popular leaders

Learning Style

• desire to improve skill and ability
• reduce lesson to key concepts and results
• hands-on, experiential learning
• eager to jump into action

Driven to Excel

• challenge themselves
• work quickly, may cut corners to get done faster
• need to produce and achieve all the time

Reward System

• want to share their accomplishments
• may brag/ show off
• enjoy competition/ contests

Handling Failure

• sensitive to criticism
• keep quiet when not doing well
• turn failure into partial success
• avoid areas in which they know they won't excel

Communication Style

• natural charmers
• positive image
• motivating, can-do attitude
• prefer doing to talking about doing

Ideal Classroom

• values self-improvement, competency
• expectations clearly defined
• visible reward system
• hands-on, applications

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The Type Four Student: The Misunderstood Creative

 Motivation: to find a special and unique identity

Focus: what's missing

Strategy: withdraw from convention and get people to notice how I'm different 

Dynamic

• strong desire to express themselves creatively
• proud of uniqueness
• sometimes self-conscious about being left out
• often seek comfort in daydreams

Learning Style

• need personal, emotional connection to lesson content
• wait until the mood strikes to study
• pour their soul into their work
• very sensitive to criticism (personal rejection)

Creative Personal Touch

• their projects are a work of art
• want their work to be extraordinary (not ordinary)
• may be artistically inclined
• turn boring work into something beautiful

Individuality

• want special, meaningful experiences
• want each student's uniqueness recognized
• don't want to be compared with others

Communication

• emotional, dramatic flair
• personally revealing
• deep philosophical discussion
• focus on meaning, symbolism

Ideal Classroom

• values self-expression, creativity, emotional authenticity
• opportunities to personalize work
• unique ambience with meaningful decor
• outlets to explore creativity and mood

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The Type Five Student: The Intellectual Outsider

 Motivation: to be competent and intelligent

Focus: what they know and do well

Strategy: withdraw from the world to study it

 Dynamic

• prefer spending time on their own
• socially uncomfortable
• prefer to observe instead of participate

Learning Style

• learn best through observation (lecture, books)
• comprehension before participation
• satisfaction with full comprehension of a topic
• analysis, finding patterns, speculation, analysis paralysis

Solitude

• enjoy time alone
• need time to think
• don't like pressure of close supervision, thinking on their feet

Introversion and Intrusion

• active minds full of ideas and concepts
• feel safe in the mind
• feel clumsy in the outside world
• seek to reduce intrusion of their space

Concentration

• strong ability to focus
• hate concentration being interrupted
• prefer depth of knowledge to breadth of knowledge

Communication Style

• usually quiet and reserved
• very talkative while discussing topics of great person interest (or mastery)
• factual, unemotional
• think lots before speaking

Ideal Classroom

• values knowledge, originality, curiosity
• topics are explored individually and in depth
• ample quiet time
• intellectual discussions

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 The Type Six Student: The Questioning Friend

 

Motivation: to be supported and secure

Focus: uncertainties, risks, dangers, the unknown

Strategy: seek guidance from those they trust

 Dynamic

• sometimes hardworking, responsible, loyal
• sometimes ambivalent, doubting, unreliable
• commitment level depends on how much they trust
• behaviour reacts to trust and anxiety

Learning Style

• questions, questions, questions
• detailed, rational analysis
• prefer structure, framework, justified rules
• good at finding problems or deviations

In Prof We Trust

• initially wary of teachers and their authority
• question inconsistencies, assumptions
• seek to understand teacher's experience, bias, preferences

Certainty and Commitment

• uncertainty breeds anxiety, worry
• want to observe first, get assumptions out of the way before participating
• over-questioning leads to analysis paralysis
• self-doubt leads to procrastination

Communication

• gregarious and likeable
• sceptical, cautionary, ask questions, play devil's advocate
• "yes, but", "the problem here is..."
• often nervous speaking in front of others

Ideal Classroom

• values of social support, reliability, responsibility
• atmosphere of trust
• predictable, structured
• questions are welcomed and answered

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The Type Seven Student: The Cheerleader

 

Motivation: to be happy and fulfilled

Focus: the positive

Strategy: seek happiness/ excitement in the world around them

 Dynamic

• pump their positive energy into the classroom
• learning is exploration and novelty
• joking, talkative, entertaining

Learning Style

• learn quickly
• learn by association
• mental exploration and experimentation
• can jump into the middle of things without needing the big picture

Ideas

• prolific brainstormers
• see connection between ideas
• connections may take them on tangents
• can synthesize disparate ideas together

Multitasking

• enjoy variety
• become distracted when things slow down
• dislike routine, predictability
• keep plans open-ended

Communication

• talkative, enthusiastic
• converse in a free association
• nonlinear, go off on tangents

Ideal Classroom

• values enthusiasm, spontaneity, openness
• fast paced, dynamic, interactive
• full of positive energy
• free of constraints and limitations

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The Type Eight Student: The Challenger

 

Motivation: to protect themselves and be in control

Focus: power and justice

Strategy: assert their independence

Dynamic

 

protect themselves

• protect those too weak to protect themselves
• take charge
• test fairness of the teacher

Learning Style

• independent, minimal supervision
• want to get their hands dirty
• enjoy class discussions, especially debates
• prefer the practical to theory

Rules and Autonomy

• rules are seen a limit to independence
• unfair rules are challenged
• unenforced rules "don't exist"
• push boundaries

Intensity

• intensity makes Eights feel alive and real
• work with energy while work is challenging
• when bored, tend to look for trouble

The Truth

• uncomfortable accepting new ideas passively
• need to challenge what they learn, seek proof to back it up
• can be change their mind if challenged by a stronger argument

Communication Style

• direct, brutal, honest truth
• state opinion as fact
• hate when they can't add their opinion to class discussions
• precocious with profanity

Ideal Classroom

• authority, confidence, and vision
• high engagement atmosphere of bold action
• vigorous debates
• fair class rules

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The Type Nine Student: The Accommodating Companion

 

Motivation: to be at peace

Focus: other people's point of view

Strategy: deny own wants and opinions to accommodate others

 

Dynamic

• easy-going, good-natured, well behaved students
• go with the flow
• cooperative, supportive
• optimistic, seek consensus

Learning Style

 

• immersion
• experiential exercises, physical movement
• repetition
• routine, predictability, structure

Big Picture

 

• all parts fit together in a harmonious way
• try to relate new information into the big picture
• sometimes hard to know which pieces are important or not

Passive

 

hard to prioritize work, it will get done when it gets done

• low stress, little conflict
• high energy environment can be draining
• may take frequent breaks, tune out

NINE

NINES (“The Peacemaker”) – “I always procrastinate when I get around to it”
NINES are motivated by the need to keep the peace, to merge with others, and to avoid Conflict.  Since they, especially, take on qualities of the other eight types, NINES have many variations in their personalities, from gentle and mile-mannered to independent and forceful.
NINES at their BEST are pleasant, peaceful, generous, patient, receptive, diplomatic, open-minded, empathic. NINES at their WORST are spaced-out, forgetful, stubborn, obsessive, apathetic, passive-aggressive, judgmental, unassertive

HOW TO GET ALONG WITH ME:
If you want me to do something, how you ask is important. I especially don’t like expectations or pressure; I like to listen and to be of service, but don’t take advantage of this; Listen until I finish speaking, even though I meander a bit; Give me time to finish things and make decisions. It’s OK to nudge me gently and non-judgmentally; Ask me questions to help me get clear; tell me when you like how I look I’m not averse to flattery; Hug me, show physical affection. It opens me up to my feelings; I like a good discussion but not a confrontation; Let me know you like what I’ve done or said; Laugh with me and share in my enjoyment of life.

RELATIONSHIPS:
NINES at their BEST are kind, gentle, reassuring, supportive, loyal, and nonjudgmental. NINES at their WORST at stubborn, passive-aggressive, unassertive, overly accommodating, and defensive.

WHAT I LIKE ABOUT BEING A NINE;
• Being nonjudgmental and accepting
• Caring for and being concerned about others
• Being able to relax and have a good time
• Knowing that most people enjoy my company; I’m easy to be around
• My ability to see many different sides of an issue and to be a good mediator and facilitator
• My heightened awareness of sensations, aesthetics, and the here and now
• Being able to go with the flow and feel one with the universe.

WHAT IS HARD ABOUT BEING A NINE:
• Being judged and misunderstood for being placid and/or indecisive
• Being critical of myself for lacking initiative and discipline
• Being too sensitive to criticism; taking every raised eyebrow and twitch of the mouth personally
• Being confused about what I really want
• Caring too much about what others will think of me
• Not being listened to or taken seriously

PRACTICAL SUGGESTIONS FOR A NINE;
• Take the first step to change a situation that isn’t right, instead of hoping that things will change by themselves
• Ask others to join you in your interests rather than always going along with theirs
• Bring up your problems when talking with others rather than only listening to others
• Instead of answering, “I don’t know” or “Whatever you want is fine with me,” say, “I’ll let you know when I decide.”
• Tell people when you want to be alone.
• Express your opinions and your feelings. Learn to rock the boat a little
• Learn to become aware of, and then appropriately express, your anger

EIGHT

EIGHTS   (“The Asserter” “The Chief”) – “Never go to bed mad – stay up all and fight!”
EIGHTS are motivated by the need to be self-reliant and strong and to avoid feeling weak or dependent
EIGHTS at their BEST are direct, authoritative, loyal, energetic, earthy, protective, self-confident.
EIGHTS at their WORST are controlling rebellious, insensitive, domineering, self-centered, skeptical, and aggressive.

HOW TO GET ALONG WITH ME:
Stand up for yourself . . . .and me; Be confident, strong, and direct; Don’t gossip about me or betray my trust; be vulnerable and share your feelings. See and acknowledge my tender, vulnerable side; give me space to be alone; acknowledge the contributions I make, but don’t flatter me; I often speak in an assertive way. Don’t automatically assume it’s a personal attack; When I scream, curse, an stomp around, try to remember that’s just the way I am.

RELATIONSHIPS:
EIGHTS at their BEST are loyal, caring, positive, playful, truthful, straightforward, committed, generous, and supportive. EIGHTS at their WORST are demanding, arrogant, combative, possessive, uncompromising, and quick to find fault.

WHAT I LIKE ABOUT BEING AN EIGHT:
• Being independent and self-reliant
• Being able to take charge and meet challenges head on
• Being courageous, straightforward, and honest
• Getting all the enjoyment I can out of life
• Supporting, empowering, and protecting those close to me
• Upholding just causes

WHAT’S HARD ABOUT BEING AN EIGHT:
(Women EIGHTS sometimes have a hard time in our society because their strength and boldness re considered “masculine” traits.)
• Overwhelming people with my bluntness, scaring them away when I don’t intend to
• Being restless and impatient with others’ incompetence
• Sticking my neck out for people and receiving no appreciation for it.
• Never forgetting injuries or injustices
• Putting too much pressure on myself
• Getting high blood pressure when people don’t obey the rules or when things don’t go right

PRACTICAL SUGGESTIONS FOR EIGHTS:
• Resist dismissing or invalidating the other’s experience or views
• Beware that when you are “direct” you may unintentionally intimidate others
• Express your appreciation out loud and often
• Avoid driving others as hard as you drive yourself
• Remember that sparring is stimulating to EIGHTS but not to most other types
• Learn to negotiate.
• Talk out your anger in therapy or discuss it with a supportive friend
• Surround yourself with people who respect your direct approach and are honest with you
• Make time for enjoyable creative or physical activities
• Find others to have fun with who accept and enjoy your outrageous nonconforming behavior

SEVEN

SEVENS (“The Materialist” ‘The Generalist” “The Adventurer”) – “You only live once – but if you work it right, once is enough”
SEVENS are motivated by the need to be happy and plan enjoyable activities, to contribute to the world, and to avoid suffering and pain.
SEVENS at their BEST are fun-loving, spontaneous, imaginative, productive, enthusiastic, quick, confident, charming, curious.
SEVENS at their WORST are narcissistic, impulsive, unfocused, rebellious, undisciplined, possessive, manic, self-destructive, restless

HOW TO GET ALONG WITH ME;
Give me companionship, affection and freedom; engage with me in stimulating conversation and laughter; appreciate my grand visions, and listen to my stories; don’t’ try to change my style. Accept me the way I am; be responsible for yourself. I dislike clingy or needy people; don’t tell me what to do.
RELATIONSHIPS: SEVENS at their BEST are lighthearted, generous, outgoing, caring, and fun. They introduce their friends and loved ones to new activities and adventures.  Sevens at their WORST  are narcissistic, opinionated, defensive, and distracted. They are often ambivalent about being tied down to a relationship.

WHAT I LIKE ABOUT BEING A SEVEN:
• Being optimistic and not letting life’s troubles get me down
• Being spontaneous and free-spirited
• Being outspoken and outrageous. It’s part of the fun
• Being generous and trying to make the world a better place
• Having the guts to take risks and to try exciting adventures
• Having such varied interests and abilities

WHAT’S HARD ABOUT BEING A SEVEN;
• Not having enough time to do all the things I want
• Not completing things I start
• Not being able to profit form the benefits that come from specializing; not making a commitment to a career
• Having a tendency to be ungrounded; getting lost in plans or fantasies
• Feeling confined when I’m in a one-to-one relationship

PRACTICAL SUGGESTIONS FOR A SEVEN;
• Cultivate healthy habits of eating, sleeping, and exercise.
• Take up an exercise program
• Be careful not to eat, drink, or spend to excess when you are stressed
• Be grateful for what you have instead of focusing on what you want
• Don’t tune out problems, hoping they will go away. Find a friend or counselor to talk with so stress doesn’t build.
• Remove your rose-colored glasses and take into account the dark or negative side of life for reality and balance. Realize that positive thinking won’t solve every problem.
• Accept feelings, trusting they will pass
• Ask others what they want; sevens often don’t realize they are self-centered
• Don’t expect others to keep up with your fast pace
• Find a career where you can put your ideals into practiced

SIX

SIXES (“The QUESTIONER” “THE LOYALIST”) “I’VE DEVELOPED A NEW PHILOSOPHY – I ONLY DREAD ONE DAY AT A TIME”
SIXES are motivated by the need for security. Phobic SIXES are outwardly fearful and seek approval. Counter-phobic SIXES confront their fear. Both of these aspects can appear in the same person.
SIXES at their BEST are loyal, likable, caring, warm, compassionate, witty, practical, helpful, responsible.
SIXES at their WORST are hyper-vigilant, controlling, unpredictable, judgmental, paranoid, defensive, rigid, self-defeating, testy

HOW TO GET ALONG WITH ME:
Be direct and clear; Listen to me carefully; don’t judge me for my anxiety; work things through with me; reassure me that everything is OK; laugh and make jokes with me; GENTLY push me toward new experiences; try not to overreact to my overreacting.

RELATIONSHIPS:
SIXES at their BEST are warm, playful, open, loyal, supportive, honest, fair, and reliable.
SIXES at their WORST are suspicious, controlling, inflexible, and sarcastic. They either withdraw or put on a tough act when threatened.

WHAT I LIKE ABOUT BEING A SIX:
• Being committed and faithful to family and friends
• Being responsible and hardworking
• Being compassionate towards others
• Having intellect and wit
For Counter-phobics:
• Being a nonconformist
• Confronting danger bravely
WHAT’S HARD ABOUT BEING A SIX:
• The constant push and pull involved in trying to make up my mind
• Procrastinating because of fear of failure; having little confidence in myself
• Fearing being abandoned or take advantage of
• Exhausting myself by worrying and scanning for danger
• Wishing I had a rule book at work so I could do everything right
• Being too critical of myself when I haven’t lived up to my expectations

PRACTICAL SUGGESTIONS FOR SIXES:
• Try to be around people who are accepting, trustworthy, and encouraging
• Really notice and try to believe the positive things that people say about you
• Keep I mind that you CAN change and overcome your fears and learn to take action in the presence of fear
• Remember that there is no one “right” way to live, as long as you are satisfied inside yourself with what you are doing
• Pat yourself on the back. Don’t wait for someone else to tell you  that you did well.
• Write and talk to yourself in nurturing and caring ways
• Remember it is OK to make mistakes
• Sixes are likely to overreact when stressed. Don’t underestimate the negative effect this can have on people.
• Be patient when others moved at their own pace rather than at yours